First Week of Daycare Guide 2026: What to Expect and How to Prepare
Complete guide to your child's first week at daycare in 2026. Day-by-day expectations, preparation tips, handling separation, and setting up for success.
The first week of daycare is a major milestone for both children and parents. Knowing what to expect, how to prepare, and what's normal can make this transition much smoother.
This guide covers everything about your child's first week at daycare in 2026: day-by-day expectations, preparation tips, and how to handle the emotional ups and downs.
Table of Contents
- Before the First Day
- Day by Day: What to Expect
- Handling Separation
- Common First Week Challenges
- Signs Things Are Going Well
- Parent Survival Tips
- After the First Week
Before the First Day
Setting up for success.
Two Weeks Before
Paperwork and logistics:
- [ ] Complete all enrollment forms
- [ ] Provide immunization records
- [ ] Set up payment method
- [ ] Download communication app
- [ ] Confirm start date and schedule
Get to know the daycare:
- [ ] Visit with your child
- [ ] Meet teachers by name
- [ ] Walk through the space
- [ ] Observe the daily routine
- [ ] Ask remaining questions
One Week Before
Prepare your child:
- [ ] Talk positively about daycare
- [ ] Read books about starting school
- [ ] Practice goodbye routines
- [ ] Adjust sleep schedule if needed
- [ ] Visit playground at daycare
Practical prep:
- [ ] Label all belongings
- [ ] Gather supplies needed
- [ ] Plan first-day outfit (easy to manage)
- [ ] Prepare comfort item if allowed
- [ ] Pack diaper bag or backpack
Supplies Checklist
Typically needed:
- [ ] Extra clothes (2-3 changes)
- [ ] Diapers and wipes (if applicable)
- [ ] Comfort item (blanket, stuffed animal)
- [ ] Crib sheet (some centers)
- [ ] Bottles/sippy cups (labeled)
- [ ] Sunscreen (if required)
- [ ] Family photo
- [ ] Backpack
Night Before
Prepare everything:
- Lay out clothes
- Pack bag completely
- Prepare lunch if applicable
- Set earlier alarm (buffer time)
- Go to bed early (everyone)
Day by Day: What to Expect
Realistic expectations for the first week.
Day 1: Everything Is New
What happens:
- Arrive and meet teachers
- Tour the space together
- Observe your child engaging
- Say goodbye (brief!)
- Leave
Normal reactions:
- Curiosity about new environment
- Clinging when you leave
- Crying (possibly a lot)
- Looking for you throughout day
- Relief when you return
For parents:
- Tears (yours) are normal
- Stay busy to cope
- It's okay to call for updates
- Give yourself grace
Day 2: Reality Sets In
What happens:
- Child may anticipate separation
- Drop-off might be harder than Day 1
- Starting to learn routine
- May be more tired
Normal reactions:
- Resistance to going
- Crying at drop-off
- Asking about you during day
- Exhaustion by evening
Day 3: The Low Point
Often the hardest day:
- Novelty worn off
- Routine not established yet
- May be cumulative exhaustion
- Peak of transition stress
What to do:
- Stay consistent
- Keep goodbye brief
- Trust the process
- Don't give up
Day 4: Glimmers of Hope
You might notice:
- Slightly easier drop-off
- Starting to engage with activities
- Remembering teachers' names
- Less crying or shorter duration
Keep going:
- Maintain routine
- Celebrate small wins
- Stay connected with teachers
Day 5: End of Week 1
Typical experience:
- Some improvement
- Still not fully adjusted
- Exhausted child (and parents)
- Made it through!
Reality check:
- One week is just the beginning
- Full adjustment takes 2-6 weeks
- Progress isn't linear
- You're all doing great
Handling Separation
The hardest part for most.
The Perfect Drop-Off
Step-by-step:
- Arrive with confidence
- Greet teachers warmly
- Help child engage with activity
- Give clear goodbye ("I love you, see you after snack!")
- One hug, one kiss
- Leave promptly
- Don't look back
What NOT to Do
Avoid:
- Long, drawn-out goodbyes
- Sneaking away
- Coming back after leaving
- Showing your anxiety
- Negotiating ("just one more hug")
- Hovering at the door
Goodbye Rituals
Create a consistent routine:
- Special handshake
- "Butterfly kisses"
- "Love you, see you later!"
- High five and wave
- Heart drawing in palm
When They Cry
Remember:
- Crying at drop-off is NORMAL
- Most stop within 5-15 minutes
- Ask for update after 30 minutes
- Trust the teachers to comfort
- Your leaving helps them adjust
Ask About Progress
Check in about:
- How long did crying last?
- What helped them calm?
- How was the rest of the day?
- What did they enjoy?
Common First Week Challenges
And how to handle them.
Sleep Disruption
What you'll see:
- Trouble falling asleep
- Night waking
- Early morning wake-ups
- Shorter naps at daycare
What to do:
- Maintain bedtime routine
- Earlier bedtime if needed
- Patience—it will normalize
- Communicate nap schedule with daycare
Behavior Changes
Common reactions:
- More clingy at home
- Tantrums (age-dependent)
- Regression (thumb-sucking, accidents)
- Extra needy
What helps:
- Extra connection time
- Patience
- Consistent limits
- Validate feelings
Not Eating Well
Why it happens:
- New environment
- Different food
- Too distracted
- Missing comfort of home meals
What to do:
- Don't panic
- Offer healthy food at home
- Pack favorites if sending lunch
- Give time to adjust
- Focus on overall intake, not single meals
Illness
The reality:
- First illness often comes quickly
- Group settings mean germ exposure
- Building immunity takes time
- Plan for sick days
What to expect:
- More colds than before
- Ear infections possible
- Stomach bugs occasionally
- Gets better over time
Refusing to Go
If your child says "no":
- Acknowledge feelings
- Stay firm and calm
- Keep routine consistent
- Don't negotiate extensively
- Reassure you'll return
Signs Things Are Going Well
What success looks like.
Positive Indicators
Watch for:
- Crying stops soon after you leave
- Engages in activities during day
- Talks about daycare at home
- Mentions teachers or friends
- Increasingly easier drop-offs
- Happy to see you at pickup
Timeline for Adjustment
Typical progression: | Week | What to Expect | |------|---------------| | 1 | Survival mode | | 2 | Starting to settle | | 3 | Routine forming | | 4 | Noticeably easier | | 6+ | Usually adjusted |
When to Be Concerned
Seek help if:
- No improvement after 4-6 weeks
- Crying lasts all day
- Complete refusal to eat
- Extreme behavior changes
- Physical symptoms (stomach aches daily)
- Your gut says something's wrong
Parent Survival Tips
Taking care of yourself.
Managing Your Emotions
Normal feelings:
- Guilt
- Sadness
- Anxiety
- Relief (and guilt about relief)
- Worry
Coping strategies:
- Talk about your feelings
- Connect with other parents
- Remind yourself why this is right for your family
- Focus on the benefits
- Give yourself grace
Staying Busy After Drop-Off
Helpful strategies:
- Go straight to activity (work, errands)
- Call a friend
- Exercise
- Don't sit in the parking lot crying (for long)
- Plan something productive
Connecting After Pickup
Reunion tips:
- Be fully present
- Give undivided attention
- Ask about their day
- Cuddle and reconnect
- Low-key evening (they're tired)
Building Your Support System
Reach out to:
- Other daycare parents
- Friends who've been there
- Partner for sharing load
- Online parent communities
- Therapist if needed
After the First Week
What comes next.
Week 2 and Beyond
Continue to:
- Maintain consistent routine
- Celebrate progress
- Communicate with teachers
- Be patient
- Expect ups and downs
Watch for:
- Continued improvement
- New challenges as they arise
- Building relationships
- Growing independence
Establishing New Routine
Family adjustments:
- Morning routine streamlined
- Evening routine adapted
- Weekend rhythm
- Ongoing communication with daycare
Building Daycare Relationships
Invest in:
- Knowing teachers' names
- Brief daily check-ins
- Reading all communications
- Attending events
- Being a partner, not just client
First Week Checklist
Before Day 1
- [ ] All paperwork complete
- [ ] Supplies labeled and ready
- [ ] Communication app set up
- [ ] Visited with child
- [ ] Met teachers
- [ ] Goodbye routine planned
Each Day
- [ ] Arrive with calm confidence
- [ ] Brief, loving goodbye
- [ ] Leave promptly
- [ ] Stay busy during day
- [ ] Check in (if needed)
- [ ] Warm reunion at pickup
- [ ] Low-key, connected evening
End of Week 1
- [ ] Celebrate surviving!
- [ ] Note what's working
- [ ] Identify challenges
- [ ] Plan for Week 2
- [ ] Give yourself grace
- [ ] Trust the process
Resources
- Find Quality Daycare Near You
- Separation Anxiety Guide
- Best Age to Start Daycare
- Questions to Ask Daycare Providers
Last updated: December 2025