First Day of Daycare: What to Expect and How to Prepare
Nervous about your child's first day of daycare? Learn exactly what to expect, how to prepare, and tips for making the transition smooth for both of you.
The first day of daycare is a milestone—for your child and for you. It's completely normal to feel a mix of excitement, anxiety, and even guilt. Here's what to expect and how to make the transition as smooth as possible.
Before the First Day
Visit in Advance
Most daycares offer transition visits before your child's official start date. Take advantage of these:
- Visit 1: Tour with your child, let them explore while you're present
- Visit 2: Stay for a short play session
- Visit 3: Leave briefly while your child plays, returning after 15-30 minutes
These gradual introductions help your child understand that daycare is a safe place and that you always come back.
Talk About It
In the days leading up:
- Read books about going to daycare
- Talk positively about their new teachers and friends
- Practice the goodbye routine you'll use
- Avoid building it up too much—keep it matter-of-fact
Prepare the Practical Stuff
Most daycares provide a list, but generally bring:
- Labeled extra clothes (2-3 outfits)
- Diapers and wipes if needed
- Comfort item (small blanket, stuffed animal)
- Any required forms or paperwork
- Family photos for their cubby
Label everything with your child's name.
The First Drop-Off
Keep It Short and Sweet
Long, drawn-out goodbyes make things harder. The best approach:
- Help your child settle with an activity or a teacher
- Give a confident hug and kiss
- Say a clear goodbye: "I love you. I'll be back after nap time."
- Leave, even if there are tears
Don't sneak away—this erodes trust. A clear goodbye, even if it prompts tears, is better.
Expect Some Tears
Most children cry at drop-off in the beginning. This is normal and doesn't mean:
- They hate daycare
- You made the wrong choice
- They're traumatized
Staff are experienced with this. Most children calm down within minutes of parents leaving.
The Pickup Matters Too
When you return:
- Greet your child warmly
- Give them your full attention for a few minutes
- Ask their teachers how the day went
- Don't be surprised if they're clingy or emotional—it's been a big day
What Your Child Might Experience
The First Week
- Tears at drop-off: Common and usually brief
- Exhaustion: New environments are tiring
- Changes in appetite: Eating more or less than usual
- Sleep disruption: May affect naps and nighttime sleep
- Clinginess at home: They need extra reassurance
The First Month
Most children need 2-4 weeks to fully adjust. During this time:
- Keep home routines consistent
- Maintain a patient, supportive attitude
- Communicate regularly with teachers
- Trust the process
Tips for a Smoother Transition
Morning Routine
- Wake up with plenty of time—rushing increases stress
- Have a consistent goodbye ritual
- Let them bring a comfort item if allowed
- Stay calm and confident, even if you're anxious
Communication with Teachers
- Share relevant information: sleep, mood, anything unusual
- Ask specific questions about the day
- Let them know about changes at home
- Build a partnership
Self-Care for Parents
This transition is hard on you too. It's okay to:
- Feel sad or guilty (these feelings are normal)
- Call the daycare to check in on the first day
- Take time to process your emotions
- Lean on other parents who've been through it
Red Flags to Watch For
Some adjustment struggles are normal. But contact your daycare if:
- Crying continues for the full day after two weeks
- Your child develops physical symptoms (stomachaches, headaches)
- They show signs of fear about specific staff members
- Behavior changes are severe or prolonged
What About Infants?
The transition process is similar for babies, but:
- Share detailed information about their schedule
- Bring familiar items that smell like home
- Expect routine disruptions as they adjust
- Know that babies are resilient—they adapt
It Gets Easier
Within a few weeks, most children:
- Walk into daycare happily
- Have favorite teachers and friends
- Show excitement about activities
- Transition smoothly at drop-off
The hardest part is often the beginning. Trust the process, trust your choice, and know that this adjustment period is temporary.
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